How bad does it have to get before you take action?
Having a lack of confidence often stops you from doing the things you really want to do. The real irony is when you actually decide to make a change to your life and breakthrough your fears and worries what usually happens is that old lack of confidence creeps in once again and stops you.
You’re up for it until the little nagging voice in your head starts to tell you all the reasons that you shouldn’t try to work through the fear that has been holding you back:
“And when you do fail, as you always have done, people will ridicule and laugh at you.”
“You’ll succeed, then what, that’s even more frightening”
“You’ll be uncovered as a fraud, and you know there are other people that can do it much better than you.”
And the more you listen to that little voice the more realistic and frightening the outcomes look.
Often your mind ends up presenting you with a worst-case scenario that is truly terrifying, and it’s enough to put anyone off, even the most confident of people would buckle under that kind of onslaught.
And so it goes on.
You decide to put up with your confidence issues for a while longer, because clearly, the time isn’t right, you back off making decisions or changes and simply crawl back into your safe shell. You never seem to be able to break out of your comfort zone for long enough to make any real progress.
But it doesn’t have to be like this.
The only thing holding you back and feeding your fears is your thinking, if you took your negative thinking out of the equation then it would be a completely different matter.
Once you realise that almost everything you thought might happen usually doesn’t, or if it does it isn’t usually anywhere near as bad as you thought it might be, then the fear tends to melt away.
But how do you do that?
You need to see your thoughts in a different light.
You need to notice that there are positive thoughts coming and going as well as the negative ones. Most people with poor self-belief tend to ignore the positives and see only the negatives.
You are not afraid of things going wrong – you are afraid of your thoughts about things going wrong. It’s as simple as that!
So what is the answer?
Because we are held hostage to our thoughts it’s really hard to see what is real and what we are making up. You could struggle on reading self-help books and practise trying to control your thoughts (a really hard if not impossible thing to do)! Or you could get some help from someone who knows how to show you the easy way to defeat your self-doubt.
Sometimes it’s a quick fix.
Having coached many people to find their natural innate self-confidence I know that sometimes just a few sessions can make a real difference to how my clients see themselves.
It’s no good expecting just one session to do it because you have to go on a voyage of self-discovery, you have to find the real authentic you that is naturally confident, and trust me it is in there.
At the moment the real you is covered up with a tangled mess of old habitual thinking. And if you are prepared to put a little work in you can find the real, authentic confident you quite easily.
The Kickstart Package
When I get an enquiry for my coaching services I always recommend that my clients start off with three months of coaching, and that’s where my Kickstart Package comes in, 7 hours of in-depth powerful coaching and mentoring designed to help you clear away those annoying, persistent thoughts and negative beliefs that have been holding you back.
With a calmer, quieter mind you feel re-energised, and you get real clarity on what you need to do to solve your problems.
Take a leap of faith.
But here’s the thing, if you don’t take a leap of faith and actually do something to make change happen, then nothing will happen, life and your lack of confidence will stay the same or maybe even get worse.
Don’t let fear hold you back this time.
Take action and make something happen, and become the person you always dreamed of being…